Thanks for the Feedback!

… have you ever said that? And mean it? Definitely easier said than felt.

Learning about ourselves can be painful. Human Design and other methods to get to your inner knowing can often be confronting. With everyone promoting reflections or resolutions during this time of year you might be grappling with some difficult feedback that you've had this year. Welcome to the human experience.

Let's metabolize those icky feelings into something that can actually be beneficial insights or at least something we can take it in stride, shall we? Onward and upward in the new year!

A - Actionable Advice

There are lots of reasons we don't take feedback, these tensions can be boiled down into three categories or “3 Triggers That Defeat Learning” according to the book, Thanks for the Feedback, The Science And Art of Receiving Feedback Well.

Now remember, you don't need to always apply feedback, trust thyself, but you can examine it and use it as information and make an aligned action for your best self. 

SEE - Truth Triggers: You're wrong! That's not true! That's off base.

If you have a 1, or 2 in your profile you might be more prone to this trigger → Understand the feedback by asking the feedback giver to explain further or provide examples that incorporate the truth.  

WE - Relationship Triggers: Who are you to tell me?!

If you have a 3 or 4 in your profile you might be more prone to this trigger → Observe how your feelings towards the individual are tainting the information available and focus on the content over the messenger.

ME - Identity Triggers: If this feedback is right about me, I become flooded with feelings of inadequacy, self doubt, etc.

If you have a 5 or 6 in your profile you might be more prone to this trigger → Remember that your worth is not attached to this moment and you have a track record of providing value. 

Knowing these triggers and how they might impact you allows you to be discerning about what feedback is most valuable to you and helps you to remain grounded in your innate self worth.

B - Best of the Week

In 90 seconds learn the difference between a judgement vs. critique and feel empowered to let the judgements roll off your back and listen to a critique for exactly what it is - feedback, thanks to Constanza Eliana Chinea. 

C - Celebrate Yourself

It's that time of year were people reflect on their past and dream about their future. Whether you're a constant goal setter or someone who chooses a single word to be your mantra for the upcoming season I guarantee you, despite whatever challenges this year threw at you, you have something to be proud of today. 

So before you go future tripping (especially if you have Gate 57), write an email to yourself about your learnings and your wins from this year. 

Use FutureMe.org to celebrate yourself via email and have it delivered any day you want to in the future. You can thank me later, but you really should be thanking yourself now!